Our Signs

I want to share this with you because I had no idea what we were going through during 2008. It is my goal that I bring awareness to others. Maybe it will help you save your family before it’s too late.

Our signs of Hostile Aggressive Parenting.
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The Biomom wouldn’t allow her daughter to talk to her father alone in private.
The Biomom would make anything she could difficult for us to see my husband’s child.
When the Biomom didn’t want my husband to see his child she would threaten to call her lawyer.
Sometimes the Biomom would lie and say her child wasn’t there to speak on the phone but my husband could hear his child in the back ground.
The Biomom undermines my husband authority with his child.
The Biomom wouldn’t give my husband his child’s school or daycare information.
The Biomom would make plans to interrupt visitation.
The Biomom has attempted to lie about abuse and involve others in the false allegations.
The Biomom lied about medical issues concerning the child.


This is only a few signs that I list. There are several others.
Please visit the following link to see more signs/symptoms
http://www.hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/symptoms_of_HAP.asp

Our Signs of a Malicious Mother

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1. A mother who unjustifiably punishes her divorcing or divorced husband by: 

a. Attempting to alienate their mutual children from the father and the stepmom
b. Involving others in malicious actions against the father or stepmom
c. Engaging in excessive litigation


2. The mother specifically attempts to deny her child (ren): 

a. Regular uninterrupted visitation with the father and stepmom
b. Uninhibited telephone access to the father and or stepmom
c. Paternal participation in the child(ren)’s school life and extracurricular activities


3. The pattern is pervasive and includes malicious acts towards the husband and stepmom including 

a. Lying to the children
b. Lying to others
c. Violations of law

Our Signs of Parental Alienation

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1. False allegations of abuse, drug and alcohol use or other illegal activities by the other parent
2. Suggesting changing the child’s name or having a stepparent adopt the child
3. Denying the other parent access to school or medical records and schedules of activities
4. Arranging temptations that interfere with the other parent’s visitation
5. The alienating parent tends to stop all communication between the child and the alienated parent.
6. The alienator will also poison the child against the therapist unless the therapist supports the alienator. Hence the therapist is seen as an enemy in the same light as the alienated parent.
7. Some alienators move away from where their ex partner resides in order to make visits difficult or impossible.

 Our Signs of an Adult Bully

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There’s many ways the Biomom bullied my family. She continues to bully my husband and I even after alienating us from her child. Here is a little bit about bullies.

What all bullies have in common is the use of power to satisfy one’s own psychological shortcomings. Each time a bully moves against someone weaker, he/she feels better about themselves for an instant. But because that feeling doesn’t last, they do it again and again. Sometimes the bully appears to lack insight into their own behavior (unwitting bully), but more often the bully does know but elects to ignore the moral and ethical considerations by which the majority of people are bound. The rules don’t apply to them. Or they have projected so much self-hatred on the other that they truly believe that those they are bullying deserve exactly what they are getting.

To read more please visit
http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/adult-bullies/
This site provides good information about warning signs of a bully. Be sure to visit the site to learn about the warning signs.
http://www.stopbullying.gov/at-risk/warning-signs/index.html

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